So you still love your ex boyfriend and you want to get over him? Keep reading, I’m going to try and talk you out of it. 🙂
Why do you want to get over him? Does thinking about him hurt? Do you still love him? And are you sure you really loved him in the first place? Here’s how you can find out if you truly love him or not. Go read that then come back here.
Back? Okay, so if it turns out you really do love him, what does “getting over him” mean? Does it mean you want to stop loving him? Because if you answered ‘yes’ to all the questions in that list, I’d guess that’s probably impossible. The best way to “get over him” is to not try to get over him at all – just stop fighting your feelings. Accept that you love him. Love is a good thing – there’s nothing wrong with loving him, even if he doesn’t love you back. Love is good, so there’s no need to stop that. The funny thing about this is that the more you fight your feelings, the more they fight back. The more you try to “get over” him, the more you’re actually thinking about how much of a problem that is.
So you love this person. That’s great. Keep it up. There’s no need to stop, just accept it. Accept your love for him as a part of your life that you can just peacefully keep as it is. This might be difficult at first because you’ve been conditioned to believe that you should only love people if you’re in a relationship with them, and if the relationship ends, the love needs to end too. That’s a load of BS. 🙂 The only reason relationships were invented is because love was there first. So relationships can take a back seat to love, it was there first so it gets priority.