How can I get over my ex boyfriend?

So you still love your ex boyfriend and you want to get over him? Keep reading, I’m going to try and talk you out of it. 🙂

Why do you want to get over him? Does thinking about him hurt? Do you still love him? And are you sure you really loved him in the first place? Here’s how you can find out if you truly love him or not. Go read that then come back here.

Back? Okay, so if it turns out you really do love him, what does “getting over him” mean? Does it mean you want to stop loving him? Because if you answered ‘yes’ to all the questions in that list, I’d guess that’s probably impossible. The best way to “get over him” is to not try to get over him at all – just stop fighting your feelings. Accept that you love him. Love is a good thing – there’s nothing wrong with loving him, even if he doesn’t love you back. Love is good, so there’s no need to stop that. The funny thing about this is that the more you fight your feelings, the more they fight back. The more you try to “get over” him, the more you’re actually thinking about how much of a problem that is.

So you love this person. That’s great. Keep it up. There’s no need to stop, just accept it. Accept your love for him as a part of your life that you can just peacefully keep as it is. This might be difficult at first because you’ve been conditioned to believe that you should only love people if you’re in a relationship with them, and if the relationship ends, the love needs to end too. That’s a load of BS. 🙂 The only reason relationships were invented is because love was there first. So relationships can take a back seat to love, it was there first so it gets priority.


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About The Meaning Of Love

I write about love because I have always been deeply bothered by society’s definitions of love and how most people talk about love, and everything they associate with it. I have given this topic years of thought, and always found it extremely hard to explain my thoughts in actual words. How do you explain something as abstract and unexplainable as love? Sometimes the topic comes up on forums and I always respond to people as best I can. At first I was terrible at getting my point across, but after enough attempts I actually started to make some sense to myself. Then one day I realized I had typed quite a lot, and I never seem to run out of steam on this topic, so why not write some full articles about it? Click my little picture on the left to see all my articles.

6 Replies to “How can I get over my ex boyfriend?”

  1. I wholeheartedly agree. I love someone very much and even if &%* felt the same, a relationship is/was not possible. I tried everything to not feel that way, to come up with reasons not to and my feelings were a mess. I became depressed.

    Finally, I stopped fighting my feelings. Even though *^%* couldn’t return them, I let my feelings show through my words, thoughts and actions. Even if people don’t feel the same way, they certainly appreciate being loved – if you express it appropriately without placing any demands. My depression cleared up almost immediately – without much need for reciprocation. Love just needs to be released! Imagine that.

    Love is meant to be given freely, without strings attached. What a huge lesson!

    Now I’m talking to someone else who is interested in reciprocating.

  2. So true… love just needs to be released. That’s a good way of putting it 🙂

  3. i have been in a relationship n i think i was in love or i was’nt. It appears that i have no feelings for myself all i do is to try and satisfied him and all i get back is heartache and pain. He looks in my eyes and tood me he dont love me and then a fews minutes late he said he didnt mean it and i believe it and from there we start to love each other again until a nother month time we broke up a gain and it all ways called the shots to says its over and i allways said ok when deep down inside i didnt want him to go

  4. i really loved him but he did’nt.he could ignore ma calls n not invite me in issues that involved me .i later made a new yr resolution n left him i;m now single.who is ready to catch up wt me.n way love is 4 only 2 love birds the third is a destroyer.love is from above n lust is frn hell.TRUST IN GOD N E WILL SHOW U HOW TRUE LOVE IS;;;;

  5. I don’t think none of this is true because the more you love someone that person is going to constantly be on your mind this does not work at all all this is going to do is have someone stressed out and probably wanting to hurt there self over that person that they love

  6. I am braka i lives in slovakia and i was in a serious relationship with my ex guy for three good years..
    One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a Quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party.
    i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us..

    Then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to one of the spiritual diviner (gbojorotemple@yahoo.com).at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement,so i did what i was ask to do, after 3 days i was in my office when my ex guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him.
    i was very surprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely
    baby(Ceslav)…i wish you the best of luck…

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