How to get over someone you love

So you want to get over someone you love, but you don’t know how? Keep on reading.

First off, you should probably clarify exactly what you want to achieve… what exactly does it mean to ‘get over’ someone? Does it mean you stop loving the person? Or would you like to keep that, but just stop it from hurting every time you think of that person?

That brings up some other questions… are you sure you really love this person in the first place? What is love? Read this article first and then come back here: How do you know if you really love someone


Back? If you read the article mentioned above and it turns out you don’t really love the person that much, no big deal, then all you need to do is distract yourself with something else for a while and eventually you’ll stop thinking about that person.

On the other hand, let’s say it turns out you really do love this person… that is a good thing, there’s no need to stop that. What you do want to stop though, is the pain associated with this person when you think of them. Why does it hurt? Is it because you’ve gotten too attached to the idea of being with this person, and the fact that you’re not together actually hurts your ego? Or do you just miss the person terribly?

Love is a good thing, there should never be any reason to have to stop loving someone or “get over” someone. The weird thing is that the more you try to fight against your feelings, the more they fight back. So the more you try to stop thinking about someone, the more you’ll end up thinking about them. Don’t think about an elephant right now. … You thought of an elephant, didn’t you? See what I mean? :)

The more you accept your feelings and make peace with them, the less they’ll bother you. So accept that you love this person, and don’t try to get over them at all. Celebrate your love, but don’t get attached to any particular outcome. Just be grateful that you have the privilege to love this person, and let that be its own reward. If you can do that, you won’t need to get over anybody.

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About The Meaning Of Love

I write about love because I have always been deeply bothered by society’s definitions of love and how most people talk about love, and everything they associate with it. I have given this topic years of thought, and always found it extremely hard to explain my thoughts in actual words. How do you explain something as abstract and unexplainable as love? Sometimes the topic comes up on forums and I always respond to people as best I can. At first I was terrible at getting my point across, but after enough attempts I actually started to make some sense to myself. Then one day I realized I had typed quite a lot, and I never seem to run out of steam on this topic, so why not write some full articles about it? Click my little picture on the left to see all my articles.